Thursday, 19 April 2012

Sign Language is Sexy

Here is a video I am loving

It's great that  American Sign Language has been used in this video. Not only that, it's apparent that this isn's just an 'English translation' as many attempts at this kind of thing are. It seems like genuine sign language to me, with all the nuances of the language (except, maybe, facial expression.)

Apparently Johnny and Natalie have signed some parts of it wrong - swapping the signs 'appear' for 'tampon' and 'enemy' instead of 'valentine.' I don't know about this specifically as I am not an ASL (American Sign Language) user. However, although those gaffe's might be there, I don't think they matter too much in the long run. The fact that sign is on such a prominent video, that it is genuine sign language and not 'English-sign' matters more than a few small articulation errors, to me.

And, well if Johnny would like any private NZSL lessons.... I would be more than willing ;)
(Just kidding, Matt!)

Thursday, 12 April 2012

The sex myth

I have been pondering posting this for a while. I'm not sure if its 'appropriate' or ok for me to post this, but it's been on my mind. I've read and re-read this post and have decided to go with it.
Don't worry, I'm not going to use any personal examples (ick!). But if the title of this post is freaking you out, well best you be on your merry way... come back next time, I'll be back to my tame self, I promise.

Moving on.

There's a big problem out there I think. It's to do with sex. More specifically, how we're lied to about how sex should be, from movies, books, magazines, music videos, advertising and so on. And, I think many people, when they finally settle into a marriage (or committed relationship), might find themselves a bit dismayed that the reality doesn't live up to the (constructed) fantasy. And I think this can be really damaging to relationships.

I'm not here to discuss whether our world is showing sex too much in the media, or whether we should just not watch that stuff so we won't see/hear the lies.
But we can't deny the fact that this stuff is in our face. Whether we should turn completely away from it is another topic.

Anyway. You all know how the media portrays sex. I don't need to get into details. You don't even need to think of shows like 'Sex in the city' (although you could), even more tame shows or movies that just hint at sex, still often show the mythical version. There is a portrayal of sex that shows the couple as completely in tune the whole time, perfectly beautiful, no embarrassing moments, and *ahem* enjoying themselves at exactly the same time, every time, several times in a row.

There is also the portrayal (primarily in magazines like Cosmo, or music videos), that women must dress oh so sexy, for their man, with the aim to please the guy. And apart from being completely sexist, it's wrong. Reality doesn't work that way.

We pick up these ideas about sex over the years and years of being exposed to it (wanted or not.) And when the time comes for a relationship, I think many of us have a distorted view of  whats healthy and normal.

Most of us understand the lies about body size, beauty and oh so perfect relationships that the media presents to us. But, because sex isn't talked about as much, I think this one is often overlooked, and not pointed out.

So, I think, when a couple is about to get married, someone (close and trusted) might need to give them a reality check. A few small pointers from someone could set the scene for a healthy and realistic relationship. We all know sex is great, but often it is very different to what we're told.

And that is my final word on that.

Wednesday, 4 April 2012

The Poem Series: Edge of the Sea

We’re standing on the edge of the sea
The sun is falling into the
Swirling spirals of the pulling waters,
The sunset haze kisses our faces
We’re one and two, separate and joined

I cling to you
My thoughts bruised black and blue
Waiting for the current to pull away these
Feelings of unease and knots that hold me
Release until I am just beside you

Subdued memories swept away
With the pull of the waves
Until they are only a distant swell
A drifting weed sinking to the depths -
We are the new

Sun warm dipping into the earth
Drawn away till all that’s left
Is me and you in the approaching shadows
Out by the darkening sea where the tide is out
Where no one knows our names

All poems in this series are by me, and are copyright to me. Some are recent, most were written in the past few years.
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